Anyone who has ever visited this blog knows they can usually expect light hearted random trivial topics. I recently felt inspired to write about something of substance for a change. Warning-Today's post has a serious message. This is kind of like when Different Strokes or some other weekly show addressed a serious issue. Sorry there will not be the usual "what you talkin bout" punch lines in today's post.
I get along well with just about everyone I meet-unless they are a total jerk. I have friends with varying political, religious, and cultural views. I try not to ruffle feathers and strive to keep the peace and mediate between others. As an observer over the years I have noticed how some people have been offended or are angry from what someone did to them a long time ago. Occasionally others get obsessed with resentment and anger and as a result they carry around a lot of excess baggage. Their feelings may be caused by a misunderstanding or maybe they have a legitimate reason to be angry because they have been wronged. Life is not fair and people get hurt. Things like divorce, traumatic experiences, cruel peers, and abuse can hurt people.
I'm not saying "just get over it" because I know that can sound simplistic and unsympathetic, but I kind of am saying that just because the price of holding onto to the negative is too great. I have seen people who can not let go and they become the victim for as long as they continue to let those feelings control them. Some people refuse to let their situation get better and are like those who constantly pick a scab rather than letting it heal.
It is amazing to see how resilient some people can be and what they are able to bounce back from. I recently heard a neighbor share an account of Corrie ten Boom who wrote The Hiding Place. After the war she was on a speaking tour talking about forgiveness when she saw one of her former captors from a concentration camp in the audience. He came up afterwards and asked her if she was serious about what she had been teaching. She struggled for a while but after praying for help to forgive him, she was able to offer her hand out to him.
The key is moving on is often forgiveness. We are the only ones who get hurt when we hold grudges against other people. I know that there are many mean, rude, and hurtful people in the world. I hope they get their butts kicked some day when they eventually reap what they've sown, but in the mean time don't let them drag you down more than they already have.
Maybe we should have a national holiday when we forgive someone who has wronged us. If you have a grudge with someone try to forgive and forget. I know it's easier said than done but it's kind of like burning a wart off your skin. It's not the funnest thing to do but you will be happier once it's gone. Just an idea.